Jesus, this news just made me so sad this morning. Lily Allen and her boyfriend just confirmed that she suffered a miscarriage (some are saying the baby was stillborn). Lily was six months pregnant, and this is her second miscarriage in two years time. Back in September, after she confirmed the pregnancy, she spoke candidly about the complications she suffered in the first trimester – there was bleeding, and Lily said that she was “living in fear” that she wouldn’t be able to carry to term.
Lily Allen has again suffered the heartbreak of losing a baby during pregnancy.
“It is with great sadness that we have to confirm that Lily Allen and Sam Cooper have lost their baby,” the British singer’s rep tells PEOPLE in a statement. “The couple ask that their privacy be respected and that they be left alone at this deeply distressing time. No further comment will be made.”
Allen, 25, announced a few weeks ago that the baby, a boy, was due in January. This is her second such heartbreak – coming almost three years after she suffered a miscarriage during her relationship with musician Ed Simons.
Allen and Cooper, an upmarket decorator, had announced their pregnancy in August. Allen had also Tweeted a pic of herself excitedly holding up a newspaper with the good news.
Allen has spoken of having children as “ultimately my main goal” in life.
[From People]
Poor Lily. I don’t really have anything to say other than that. Poor girl. She must be absolutely devastated.
made me cry 🙁
Oh wow, that is so late to miscarry. What a terrible thing….poor girl.
This is terrible news. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.
Poor Lily this broke my heart to read this. I would be beyond devastated, she was so far along in her pregnancy. My heart just aches for her, I can’t even imagine the pain she is feeling. It brought tears to my eyes, she was almost there. Breaks my heart, anyone going through this, it makes me so sad.
Regardless of how she normally acts, my heart does break for her. That’s an awful long way into a pregnancy for such a devastating event.
Absolutely heart-wrenching. Many prayers to Lily and her loved ones. 🙁
I don’t know who she is, but what a sad thing to happen. How heartbreaking for the couple.
I’m sure others will point this out but this is actually considered a stillbirth and not a miscarriage. How truly sad. As someone who suffered multiple pregnancy losses, although none so far along, this breaks my heart. I hope that she will have better luck in the future.
Very sad.
how sad. That made me cry 🙁
I know how she feels and it’s extremely sad and heart breaking .. my heart goes out to her, I truly hope someday she’s able to carry to term … my thoughts and prayers are with you Lily!!
I think depending on how many weeks she was, it may be considered still born. I suspect if she gets pregnant again, they will have her on bed rest from day one because she has miscarried in her 1st and 2nd trimester.
My heart absolutely goes out to her.
Very Sad I hope she and her family are well.
What sad news to read this morning.
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How terrible. Prayers for Lily and family.
How awful – my heart goes out to her. Generally, a loss before 24 weeks is considered a miscarriage and after that is considered stillborn. I’m 20 weeks along myself,and although the risks decrease after the first trimester, I’ll be scared the whole way through until I have my baby healthy and alive in my arms.
That is so devestating for her and this must be even more heartbreaking than the first tragedy for her.
Poor Lily, that’s so heartbreaking. I hope third time’s a charm for her.
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So tragic, I hope she is able to get through this with much support.
I felt really sad when I read this earlier this morning. I feel so sorry for her because she seem so happy that she got pass the first trimester. This will be considered a stillbirth since she mostly likely had to actually give birth to the baby. It’s just too bad the doctors could not do something to help her carry the baby closer to term.
Poor Lilly. The good thing is that she is still very young and she shouldn’t give up hope. But, right now, I’m sure she is totally torn apart.
Poor little thing. I lost my first pregnancy at 5 months. It is absolutely devastating at any stage of pregnancy, but to be so far along sort of gives you a false sense that everything will be fine. I am so sorry for her loss. Maybe she will be able to carry to term when she’s a little bit older, or with medical intervention. I pray so.
She looks so happy in those photos, serene and beautiful; my heart aches for her.
So sorry to hear she lost her baby. My prayers to her
very tragic. my niece lost her baby at 6 months. the second pregnancy she was sewed up bcuz she had a weak cervix and was put on bed rest for her entire pregnancy. on her third pregnancy she had to get stitched again but no bed rest.
oh man. i’m so sad for her!
My heart is breaking for them.
I’m so grateful that no one has said, “It was G-d’s will”…or, “There must have been something wrong, and it is better this way”…I had stillborn twin girls in my 8th month, and you wouldn’t believe the things people said to me. My heart is broken for her, and the truth is that you never forget, and it always feels like there are holes in your life where those little souls should be. I was able to have a daughter a few years later…total bed rest the entire pregnancy….I hope that she, too, will be blessed with a living child.
Wow, extreme condolences to Lily and Sam. Just heartbreaking.
Suffering a miscarriage once is hard enough, twice has to be heartbreaking. I remember she even had troubles with her boyfriend due to the 1st miscarriage. I really hope this boyfriend stand by her, cause its a really tough time for them.
awww. so sorry for them.
Oh wow-I know after six months in utero the baby is officially counted as a “death”. Like if a woman was over 6months along and died in an car accident or plane crash they count the baby as a passenger. Of course no matter how far along, miscarriage is devastating! I’m keeping her in my prayers today!
My thoughts go out to her and her boyfriend during this immensely painful time.
@ c – Thank you for making such a valid point: There are absolutely no words to express such a profound loss, and the whole “It’s God’s will” or “The baby would have had serious problems” shtick is so not comforting. I am so sorry for your loss, but I’m grateful you were able to have a healthy baby girl. I spent 2 entire pregnancies on bed rest, and it sucks, but my healthy babies were worth it!
my prayer goes to Lily and her family.
How devastating. That was really shocking news.
That is heartbreaking. I feel bad for her.
Poor thing, that is terribly sad. I hope they are going to be ok that is just so hard. I haven’t been there myself but my SIL lost twins at 5 1/2 mos and she was simply destroyed.
Such sad news! They both must be heartbroken.
Heartbreaking.
So, so sorry to hear this. It has been almost two years since we lost our baby boy at 39 weeks due to an umbilical cord accident, and every time I hear about someone experiencing a loss it takes me right back to that day.
I hope Ms. Allen has a good support system of family and friends around her because she will need it. It is something that you never really get over, you just learn to live with it.
So, so sad.
It’s so terrible to miscarry at any time, but I would think it’s even worse when you’re out of the “danger zone” of the first trimester. Ugh, my heart goes out to her. So, so sad.
MSat, how devastating, I can’t imagine. But you are proof that such tragedies can be overcome. I suffered a miscarriage very early but it was to be my last pregnancy due to my age. Ladies we are so strong! Prayers for Lily.
So sad, i hope people are taking care of her and i hope she and her boyfriend are gonna look after each other too. x
Poor Lily, this must be really hard time for her
Awww just awful. I’m so sorry lily. Best wishes girl! I was a surrogate for a young woman who could not bring 8 children to term. Breaks my heart to hear anyone losing a child they truly wanted. I wish her all the luck and love on her future children!
i can’t believe this!she wanted to be a mommy so bad!!this is the worst thing that can happen to a woman..so sad 🙁
🙁 Must be devastating for them.
This is horribly sad news 🙁
Reminds me of my friend who wants nothing more than to be a mother and just can’t manage to carry a baby to term. Sad. And so late in the pregnancy, too.
So unexpected and sad. At that point in the pregnancy, esp after a previous miscarriage, I’m sure she felt confident and was starting to actually enjoy the pregnancy and feeling the baby move. I certainly hope she gets back to trying again as soon as she’s able and ready to do so.
Oh poor Lily! My deepest condolences to her and everyone who has miscarried or had a stillbirth. That is just heartbreaking.
I literally gasped when I saw this. I am completely heartbroken for her.
This is every womans worst fear. So heartwrenching.
Oh no, I think my heart just broke.
I remember me writing a happy comment on the ‘Lilly is pregnant again!’ news. I really feel for her, she must be devastated.
I dont know what else to say.
how awful.
Very tragic.
@ MSat and C – sorry for your losses
How unspeakably sad! My heart breaks for her and everyone else who’s gone through this.
Stillborn seems especially accurate since six months is very close to viability (which makes it all the more heartbreaking); my dad was born three month premature.
How terribly sad, my heart goes out to Lily and her family.
I am horrified and upset for her. Having been through it, these are some dark days for her.
my heart goes out to her. God, that is so tragic.
Poor girl.
I hope her friends and family are incredibly supportive during this time of loss.
I’ve had 5 miscarriages, never that late. It must be a whole other level of devastation. May they find peace and healing, somehow.
that’s so f*cked up.
poor thing. i wish her strength though this mournful time. 🙁
i feel really bad for her…i could not imagine loosing a baby that far into the pregnancy.
What?! OMG this is so sad!
*tear* that is so, so sad. I feel for her and Sam, esp since this isn’t the first time it’s happened to her. That poor girl.. I hope she gets through it, heals, and maybe they can try again or find out what the problem is.
🙁 poor lily
Reading the comments, I see that many women have lost their babies. How is it that this is not a more commonly discussed topic?
I know I felt like an utter failure as a woman when I lost my child. It is devastating, and more needs to be done in the way of support for those of us who have lost our babies in utero.
so sad!
I cannot even imagine her grief. She was a month ahead of me right now. Medically this is considered a stillbirth. I know in the US at least in most states, after 20 weeks, mothers are issued a birth and death certificate. She also probably had to labor to deliver the baby. How heartbreaking. Hopefully she was able to hold her baby and name him. Prayers for her comfort. No parent should ever have to do this.
I was told my baby may just die suddenly. The only indicator on ultrasound is that he is far smaller than he should be. I know that terror she lived with and I am so sorry that he passed away. Maybe my doctor was being a doom and gloom asshole like some doctors tend to be, who knows. I’ve also lost babies after you woule expect things to be okay so that fear never goes away.
I hope she is able to find comfort and peace. How terribly sad.
Poor Lily. I lost a baby in my 2nd trimester and was told that before 20 weeks was a miscarriage and after 20 weeks was a stillbirth. People try to say something meaningful because they really want to be comforting, but generally it comes out terribly wrong. “Things happen as they’re meant to…” “God’s will.” Or this from a good friend, “Nature’s way of correcting a mistake.” All you should really say is “I’m so sorry” and leave it at that. I was very lucky and had a completely healthy, trouble-free pregnancy afterward. I hope she does too.
I feel so awful for her. I have no kids and have never been pregnant so I truly cannot imagine. I see so many losers out there with so many kids, usually yelling at them in the store or cussing on the phone while the small child is right there, sucking it all in…and it always pisses me off. How do these jagoffs get to breed probably without even trying, and the good people in the world that want a child so badly seem to be the ones having the trouble? It just ain’t right.
@ Bellaluna- I think it is one of those topics people sweep under the rug. People are uncomfortable and don’t know what to say so they just kind gloss over it or say some stupid platitude and that shuts the woman who misscarried down. My daughter was premature and I had huge guilt about it, I felt like if something happened to her that it would be my fault for not being able to carry her to term.
@ Rubenesque- I agree with everything you said and I think for most tragedies that people go through “I am sorry” and being willing to listen and do things to help while people grieve is the best way to go.
So, so sorry Lily.
that is really sad — poor Lily !! also a little worrisome that she is so young (25 yrs old) and already had 2 miscarriages, i hope she is OK healthwise
“27.c:
November 1st, 2010 at 10:50 am I’m so grateful that no one has said, “It was G-d’s will”…or, “There must have been something wrong, and it is better this way”…I had stillborn twin girls in my 8th month, and you wouldn’t believe the things people said to me.”
Any miscarriage is horrible but having still born twin girls at 8 months is beyond devastating and shame on anyone who would have said anything other than support you in the best possible way.
Thats great that you went on to have a baby girl.
That must be so horrible for her. I can’t imagine what losing a baby so far along must be like.
@ Bellaluna:
I discovered when I went through a miscarriage early this year what a common experience it is. 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first trimester. That statistic shocked and saddened me. It seems that women feel ashamed, that their fertility is in question, and there is such a societal pressure dating back to the beginning of human civilization for women to be fertile, to be able to carry a child, and when you can’t-you feel that something is wrong with YOU or that you did something WRONG, when it’s actually something so many women experience. I’m 10 weeks right now, and I’m just so terrified that it will happen again.
My heart goes out to Lily. May God bless her and keep her as she and her family mourn this loss, and provide her strength and comfort, and may her physical recovery be smooth.
My prayers are with her.
Poor Lily. That’s horrible. I feel really bad for her. I hope she’s ok.
Such sad news, my condolences to Lily and to all of the women who have shared their own miscarriage/stillbirth stories.
It is much more common that people think- my best friend has had two miscarriages, both after fertility treatments. It was devastating and horrible and so, so sad. Thankfully they adopted a baby boy in January and he’s given them so much joy, though I know she still thinks about the babies that she lost.
Also, can I just say how warm and fuzzy it makes me feel that everyone commenting here is being kind and sincere- I love Celebitchy exactly for this reason!
Sad.
Oh my, I’m so sorry for Lily and her boyfriend. I can only imagine how devastated they are! My condolences to them as they deal with the loss of their baby. 🙁
Just like many other people have said before : this is just horrible, poor thing. And I can’t believe that is the second time it has happened to her in a short period of two years.
My thoughts go to her during this difficult time.
Poor Lily! I am so sorry for her loss. All I can really say is that I hope her friends, family and husband (baby’s daddy?) will all stay with her and really give her the love and support she needs during this difficult time. I also hope that the next pregnancy works out for her. It’s obvious how much she wants to be a mommy, and I just really hope she gets there some day.
Good luck, best wishes and many prayers to Lily and her family!
How awful and sad for Lily and at 6 months pregnant more than half way through her pregnancy, I can’t imagine how devastating it would be knowing you are giving birth to a dead baby.
Oh this is so horrible. She has been so open and vocal about wanting to be a mother, she obviously wants it so much. My heart goes out to her and her man. I hope they can pull through this and I hope they go on to have a healthy child(ren). 🙁
I read about this earlier. I had a miscarriage in 2006 and although I was only 2 months along…it killed me. It’s amazing how once you’ve learned you’re pregnant and about to have a baby, all of your love immediately directs itself towards that unborn child. To this day, I cry every year on the anniversary of my miscarraige. Although I have tried to get pregnant again, I have been very unlucky…but I remain optimistic that one day, I will.
I could not imagine what poor Lily is going through. To experience it once is heartbreaking, but to experience it again & sooo far along is completely earth shattering. I fear that it may happen again if I ever become pregnant again, but right now…my thoughts and prayers are with Lily and her family. I’m at a loss for words. My heart goes out to you.
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My heart goes out to her and her family. What a horrible thing to happen.
My heart goes out to her truly.
I have heard not saying this is her case that most women who have had a lot of abortions in their lives will always miscarry because their body thinks that something is going to force the pregnancy to end.
My friend this is very horrible by the way had two abortions when she was 4 months and 5 months along (this is allowed in Alabama). Now she can’t ever carry a baby to full term because her body automatically aborts it. She wants a baby so badly right now and she cant do it.
I hope lily finds peace in her heart
i cannot imagine what they are going through. my thoughts and prayers are with them, and their families. poor, poor girl. 🙁 🙁 🙁
So very sad… 🙁
As much as I am against abortion, please don’t bring the blaming thing into this. Not sure if this was your intention but it kind of sounded like it. I don’t care how many abortions a woman has, NO ONE deserves this.
What is even sadder is that when this happens (and sadly this has happened to me more times than I care to share) is you want to know why and very commonly there is NOT an answer. There is conjecture (maybe their was cord constriction, maybe there was a placental problem) who knows?! But to put blame on someone for this helps no one. It is among the WRONG things to say to someone who has lost a baby, as many women in this thread have identified themselves as.
On a side note, I was incredibly offfended when I shared at work why I needed some time off after one of my losses, I was told how sad it was and my boss could understand because she lost a cat when she was a little girl. WTF?!
Im having trouble ovulating because Im not very fertile so I can understand the severity of the issue. But to actually lose a baby-its totally heartbreaking.
@bellaluna – at least a quarter of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. Usually it’s within the first month or two so many women have no idea they were pregnant unless they were actively attempting to and were checking every month. But miscarriages happen to almost every woman. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with a woman, although a miscarriage as late as Lily Allen’s may be cause for concern. Anyway, yes, miscarriage is normal. The body can sense a lot of genetic problems and will expel a fetus instead of carrying it to term instead of wasting the body’s resources on a baby that will either be stillborn or not live more than a few hours. This is the most common reason for a miscarriage, actually.
It is now agreed that historically, women were pregnant at least 20 times during their lives. 5 of those pregnancies would result in miscarriage, 5 of the babies would be carried to term but die within the first year, another 5 would die sometime during childhood and 5 would live to be healthy adults. We tend to forget in this age of modern medicine how common death of babies has been for most of human history. This does not mitigate the grief and loss of a couple expecting a baby at all, but hopefully knowing this will help women realize that they are not somehow broken or abnormal for having a miscarriage.
I’m very sorry for her loss. 🙁
@ Really
Reactions like yours PERPETUATE THE MYTH THAT THIS IS SOMEHOW A WOMAN’S FAULT.
95 responses and you’re the only one who managed to be a jerk. I’ve been there, and my body was in excellent shape to carry a child, yet I miscarried. Should this somehow reflect on my past behavior? Does it indicate that I was promiscuous, or that I had multiple abortions? NO. It simply means that my pregnancy, like ONE IN FOUR, ended prior to the completion of the first trimester.
Women miscarry. It is a 25% risk every time you get pregnant. While scar tissue or damage MIGHT be a factor in some women, many, many miscarriages happen simply because the baby failed to develop. It’s painful, it’s tragic, but it is NOT OUR FAULT. No one is to blame. And ANY WOMAN WHO HAS THE GUTS TO SAY, I SURVIVED THIS PAIN, THIS LOSS, THIS TRAGEDY, AND I WAS ABLE TO CONCEIVE, OR I WAS ABLE TO LOVE A CHILD THAT WAS BORN OF ANOTHER MOTHER BUT IS MINE BY ALL RIGHTS, DESERVES TO BE APPLAUDED, NOT CRITICIZED OR HAVE THEIR BEHAVIOR QUESTIONED.
I’m angry, for Lily, for myself, and for every woman who has been ashamed or been made to feel that their loss is their fault.
Poor Lily! I can’t even begin to imagine the heartbreak she must be experiencing. I was so sad to see that headline.
My heart broke when I saw this news this morning. I don’t know her, obviously, but I know all too well that feeling of wanting to be a mommy more than anything… and having it given then taken away from you in such a psychologically violent way. I still cry for my baby and it’s been over 4 years.
I pray she has strong support around her. God, my heart is just in pieces for her.
Oh, God. Poor woman. I really, truly feel for her.
So very sad….I can’t even imagine her pain. I hope she has the strength to cope. Poor poor Lily.
My thoughts & prayers are with her, her boyfriend and family, and also to all of the posters who lost a child. So tragic. Made even more so by the fact that people who really don’t want/care about their children seem to have no problems at all getting pregnant & carrying their babies full term.
Excellent point, Sugar & Spice, and one so many women question… “Why am I denied a child, when I want one so badly? Why is someone who abuses their child in the womb and continues to neglect or abuse their child granted the gift?”
This thread has had so many good points-I keep coming back to read everyone’s comments.
I’m sure I will get slammed for this, but I wonder if she had an H1N1 flu shot? Maybe not, because I don’t believe the British recommend this to pregnant patients the way MDs in the US do. I had 8 otherwise perfectly healthy patients well past their first trimesters miscarry after this shot last year. Keep in mind it was never tested on pregnant women. Several of my colleagues have seen the same thing in their practices. If you google “swine flu shot” and miscarriage you will find comments by thousands of women who miscarried after the shot… But whatever the cause, this is incredibly sad and my heart goes out to the parents.
Truly sorry for their loss. Miscarriage/child loss is heartbreaking.
#93, I’m sure you can provide a link to that claim you’re making. @@
Jesus…how horrible! Poor Lily. 🙁 I hope she will be okay. She really wanted that baby badly. *sad(
Oh man….just. No. Words.
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Hello Qimb, in statistics we have this saying: “correlation does not equal causation”. That means that just because two things are associated in time, doesn’t mean one caused the other. You just read multiple postings saying how common miscarriages are. Getting the flu shot is also very common. And guess what? Pregnant women who contracted H1N1 were more likely to suffer serious complications (i.e. ending up in ICU on vent).
So please try to think more logically about this.
Sad news, my thoughts are with her and her family. 🙁
I’m so sorry for her loss. Poor girl.
My grandmother had 6 miscarriages until she had my mother at the age 40.
Tragic.
Poor lady. I wish her the best.
Quimb…..I had a Swine Flu shot in my first trimester with my first and only child along with a regular flu shot and she was born at 38 weeks very healthy. I am also a diabetic so my pregnancy was high risk from the get go! Women who get swine flu while pregnant are in serious trouble…Women should listen to their Dr.s….If you don’t trust your doctor why even see them?
This poor girl. What a sad thing to happen! I cannot imagine how devastated she must be.
I am so sad to read this news!
Lily will be in my thoughts.
My heart breaks for her. I am currently pregnant with my third child. I am due about the same time she was due. I will say a little prayer for her. I have miscarried before and my last pregnancy I had placenta previa and was put on bed rest for 9 weeks. My daughter was born early but healthy. There is nothing you can say to a woman who has lost her child this way. Just send them love.
Such a sad situation. I almost feel bad telling #93 to invest in a brain, since there are more serious events to consider than common supidity. But, #93, get a brain. There. I said it.
Sending love and strength to lily and family at this time. Like Lily my daughter was born sleeping on christmas day 2009 and it is the hardest thing for any family to go through. through my experience, i set up a site to unite all angel parents and make potential parents to be aware of baby loss. we are in the process of becoming a charity and would love all the help needed.. sending love to all angel families
@ Pretty T – I will keep you in my prayers. Please just have faith that you and your baby will be healthy. I know it’s scary, but you can do it. After my baby’s death in utero, I was so terrified I wouldn’t be able to carry a baby to term that I was in emotional denial, unable to admit I was pregnant until after the 5th month. 2 healthy babies later, suspected infertility, and a “surprise” baby that nearly killed during labour and delivery at age 39 (no joke – blood pressure), so I have faith. I will share my faith with you. You and your sweet baby will be fine – I’m praying for you both.
As for the comment about abortions leading to miscarriage, I will say this: I’ve never had an abortion in my life. Other than that, I’ll not dignify it with a response.
Correlation may not equal causation, but swine flu shots result in miscarriage WAY too often to be coincidence. Please remember that they have never been tested on pregnant women. As for always trusting your doctor, get real! Please remember that the AMA for years recommended HRT to women, then it was revealed that causes cancer. There are many other instances in which doctors have recommended things to their patients which ended up being not so smart – does anyone remember Thalidomide? So go ahead and blindly trust your doctor if that seems smart. But remember the drug companies are making MILLIONS off these vaccines. Of course they are going to instruct doctors to recommend it for everyone, even if it hasn’t been tested on certain groups like pregnant women. And while we’re at it, does anyone know of a woman who has lost a baby due to the swine flu? I’m sure there are some out there, and my heart goes out to them. But I had 8 patients miscarry last year after this shot. 8 otherwise perfectly healthy patients, all well past their first trimester, whose babies died in utero within a week after this shot (at least that was our best estimate on timing from the ultrasounds). Because this shot was given in a specific time period to residents in my region, all of these miscarriages occured within a 3 week period. And that is just my fairly small practice – I have heard eerily similar stories from colleagues all over the country. My recommendation to my pregnant patients now is to avoid receiving this shot, at least until adequate research is done to ensure its safety. By the way – I am an MD – not all of us are recommending this shot!
Oh my. This is terrible.
I am so sorry for her loss. Pregnancy loss and stillbirth are gutting things to go through.
As the mother of a stillborn son (39w) I understand the path she’ll be travelling with her partner and family over the coming days, weeks and months.
I wish her strength and peace and a soft place to land. Everything is now different.
I lost a stillborn baby boy at 34 weeks. It is considered stillbirth after 24 weeks. Sands(stillborn and neonatal society) helped me a lot. There are many mums and dad out there who have lost babies after 24 weeks. My condolences to Lily Allen.
15 stillborn babies everyday in the uk.
i am so sorry for you lily and your family.
So sad. Poor Lily, that’s heartbreaking.